tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post1650177858324984232..comments2023-11-02T11:40:44.103+00:00Comments on Constableconfused.com: Cultural differences.Constable Confused.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08826293130119465865noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-5246731114915327832009-05-14T02:31:00.000+01:002009-05-14T02:31:00.000+01:00I know that it is months on, but I wanted to comme...I know that it is months on, but I wanted to comment on this.<br /><br />I have read in the press about "female castration" of African girls. A tradition of oppression, based upon ignorance and male domination of the females in those tribes. The mutilation robs those girls of sexual pleasure when older, which is a bizarre thing for men to insist upon as a part of their "culture."<br /><br />Thankfully society has never demanded that here, but 50 years ago, any female who did enjoy the art of lovemaking was considered to be a bit of a "scarlet woman", a whore. Women were not supposed to enjoy sex, just endure it upon demand. Thankfully, times have changed and so have attitudes to sex. <br /><br />The people from cultures who perform genital mutilation upon female children, need to be informed very clearly, upon arrival in this country, that it is an illegal act of cruel abuse.<br />Immigrants need to fully understand what is taboo here. My heart goes out to all the girls who have suffered that mutilation.<br /><br />Beating that poor child with the buckle of her father's belt was also just plain vicious and must have hurt her very badly. I'm not at all surprised she didn't want to go home. Being beaten with the leather strap part of a belt is bad enough, but the buckle? Hopefully her father will have been warned to refrain from that sort of brutality against his kids.<br /><br />I was thrashed with a belt strap as a kid, for telling an inconvenient truth, that my mother did not want to hear, nor would she accept. It was horrendous and seemed to go on for hours as she kept coming back..."To thrash the truth out of me". In the end I fought back, because she would have killed me, and from a standing position on my bed, I kicked her in the stomach to stop her thrashing me again. It shocked her and she did stop and left the room. A thrashing with a belt was normal punishment in the 1950's.<br /><br />I was screaming. It was a nightmare. I banged on the wall to alert the neighbour and then opened the bedroom window and shouted repeatedly for someone to call the police. They did arrive and were told by my mother, that it was a family matter, and they went away. That was over 50 years ago, and a very long story.<br />I then got another thrashing for bringing the police to the door. <br />I had witnessed, and been subjected to very serious incidents of abuse, whilst in the "care" of my godfather.<br /><br />I went to stay with my nan, but a few months later I was forced to go back home, but not by Social Services, who were not involved with what happened to myself. <br />I did miss my dad, but didn't want to be anywhere near my mother ever again after what she had done to me. It took a long time, but she did try to make up for what had happened, and was sorry.<br /><br />I did get to tell a cop what had been going on, whilst at my nans, and he did his best to help me. <br />He told me to inform my mother that if she ever took a belt to me again, then Social Services would be informed and she would be in trouble. She didn't like that one bit, but it did stop her thrashing me with a leather belt ever again.<br />An auntie also stuck up for me, and stood up to her, told her off.<br />They didn't speak to each other for quite some time after that, and mum blamed myself for "causing trouble". I became the "scapegoat".<br /><br />As an adult re-living the horror of those long blocked out memories of serious abuse; I realise that my mother was terrified by the truth and the reality of what had happened to me. She couldn't handle it and thrashed me out of fear for herself, knowing an awful truth. Women and children were routinely sexually and physically abused in the 1950's. Everyone knew it went on, but nobody talked about it; because many of the abusers were very ruthless men in positions of power and authority.<br /><br />I vowed as a child, that when I grew up I WOULD do something to change things, so that kids didn't have to suffer that kind of abuse.<br />As I have siad before on here, I did write the letter which got the ball rolling on the Child Protection System in the latter part of the 80's.<br /><br />Cases like this poor girl and baby Peter, makes me feel like I have failed to achieve my life's mission. And I heard a pathetic NHS "justification" for failure over baby Peter, on Wednesday's ITV news. An NHS "expert" stated that Health Workers had been reluctant to write in records that a house was "dirty", because they didn't wish to make judgements.<br /><br />I would have thought that the clearly obvious bruises, broken bones and other injuries to baby Peter, were more relevant than whether a house is spotlessly clean, or not. Abusive parents can live in spotlessly clean houses, and some of them are "professional" people, raising unhappy screwed up kids.<br /> <br />A bit of mess and dust should not be taken as some sort of "tick box" evidence that a parent is ill treating a child. We have had Health researchers telling us in recent years, that kids have to come into contact with a bit of "dirt", to build up a strong immune system. They have stated that a too clinically clean home and the overuse of cleaning products, has been linked to children's allergies.<br /><br />So I sincerely hope that Health visitors and doctors et al, are NOT about to assume, that because someone's house is not of the "hospital clean" standard, that they are probably abusing their kids. A miserable child is more of an indication of that, and even then, the child may be unhappy because of factors OUTSIDE of the parental home - like school bullies, or a divorced parent.<br /><br />I sincerely hope, that the little girl mentioned in your post, does not suffer any more abuse at home.<br /><br />Apologies for the length of this comment C.C. But it had to be said, and you did say on a recent post, that my opinion would be valued.<br /><br />M.T.MAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-76791974369077799312009-03-27T16:22:00.000+00:002009-03-27T16:22:00.000+00:00Hello anonymous,yes the mother got bailed as well ...Hello anonymous,<BR/><BR/>yes the mother got bailed as well for further enquiries, they are all living together again as a happy family.<BR/><BR/>Hurray for social services and the CPS.<BR/><BR/>We do have a PPU but they won't get involved.<BR/>Regards.Constable Confused.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08826293130119465865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-35311259328573558542009-03-25T20:52:00.000+00:002009-03-25T20:52:00.000+00:00Haven't you got a PPIU unit who can provide some g...Haven't you got a PPIU unit who can provide some guidance here? Has the mother got bail as well?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-75437525809785958822009-03-24T01:52:00.000+00:002009-03-24T01:52:00.000+00:00Have just learned today that he has been bailed fo...Have just learned today that he has been bailed for a month or so and she has been placed back at home by social services.<BR/><BR/>WTF????????????Constable Confused.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08826293130119465865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-79118707217916538472009-03-22T14:02:00.000+00:002009-03-22T14:02:00.000+00:00Best wishes and thoughts for you and Mrs CC.It's o...Best wishes and thoughts for you and Mrs CC.<BR/><BR/>It's one of the taboo subjects no one wants to mention but a lot more should be made of it....Dark Sidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01041020755058214988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-79291971570224365892009-03-22T09:57:00.000+00:002009-03-22T09:57:00.000+00:00Keeping you and Mrs C in my prayers... I don't und...Keeping you and Mrs C in my prayers... <BR/><BR/>I don't understand the way some societies feel they are able to mutilate their children this way. It doesn't have any health implications, at least for the recipient of the pain. I hope she manages to get over it, and that it stops but I have my doubts.Sagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01005047450040559399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-62361680848620203922009-03-22T08:22:00.000+00:002009-03-22T08:22:00.000+00:00Apologies for spelling mistake in my name above!Apologies for spelling mistake in my name above!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-18375738102604926802009-03-22T08:21:00.000+00:002009-03-22T08:21:00.000+00:001st comment. Best wishes to Mrs CC, and to you, fr...1st comment. Best wishes to Mrs CC, and to you, from a colleague.<BR/><BR/>You have touched upon a very damning subject - damning because it is a sad example of one of the failings of our multicultural society. If everyone entering this country was physically examined (as they are when they emigrate to Canada, for example) then I would expect any parent who had carried out such a ritual to be refused entry. It should be explained in no uncertain terms that if you are going to live in the UK you will abide by our rules, laws and cultural expectations. But no. We have sacrificed many things on the altar of our "open door" policy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com