tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post2319644519215718056..comments2023-11-02T11:40:44.103+00:00Comments on Constableconfused.com: Winging it.Constable Confused.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08826293130119465865noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-43082111339699590982009-08-21T02:06:53.660+01:002009-08-21T02:06:53.660+01:00WOW Hogday, you took the words right out of my mou...WOW Hogday, you took the words right out of my mouth and said it for me! You are soooooo right. Spot on with such an accurate insight, on the way things really are in the real world.<br /><br />The compassionate and caring ones amongst us DO often stand alone, like aliens from another planet, often misunderstood by the herd, and also often abused and taken advantage of, by the less caring so called "humans" on planet earth.<br /><br />Grumpy Old Ken is spot on too.<br /><br />I do have concern for you C.C, but I try to maintain faith in positive outcomes, and that YOU are okay, and will be even better in the near future. I know that you have been through as tough a time as myself, and it has damaged my health considerably. I really hope that has not happened to you.<br /><br />I was reading on A Police Wife's blog, about how the job affected her husband, in that he was on occasions uncharacteristically grumpy. I realised that applied to myself, because of the stress and strain of difficult cases. I think my family do worry about me, but do not fully understand, nor make allowances.<br /><br />I have noticed that you, CC, have gone silent, and that worries me, a bit, as to your well-being.<br />But I wonder if you have "winged it" off on holiday, somewhere nice perhaps?<br /><br />BluebirdAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-53683152282942867152009-08-20T19:47:54.984+01:002009-08-20T19:47:54.984+01:00Your blogs are always sensible and caring. but i w...Your blogs are always sensible and caring. but i wonder concerning the long term effects on yourself.<br />I wonder if those closest to YOU worry on your behalf. Many years in teaching had its effect on me. The only one who didn't notice I suspect was me.Grumpy Old Kenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17828200865710133059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-18840113212587899992009-08-20T12:12:56.088+01:002009-08-20T12:12:56.088+01:00`Winging it` just about sums it up CC.c. Especiall...`Winging it` just about sums it up CC.c. Especially in our world, where you'll get a long queue of people ready to blame you if the `winging` goes bent, but when you look for the support before the event, it isn't there, in abundance. I certainly found that the compassionate frequently stand alone and although it never stopped my compassion, it certainly didn't help..Hogdayafternoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06188146617570775741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-86055101711371120432009-08-15T22:20:12.829+01:002009-08-15T22:20:12.829+01:00BOP was your only option. You did your best for hi...BOP was your only option. You did your best for him. I learnt long ago that the police service is all that is left when others stand aside.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-20174340698833110292009-08-13T01:00:48.683+01:002009-08-13T01:00:48.683+01:00Poor guy. It is clearly rather a lot to cope with ...Poor guy. It is clearly rather a lot to cope with when one knows in advance, how ones life is likely to pan out, and the suffering one may endure. Not surprising either, that his family appear to bring him down enough to want to block it all out with booze, a mood depressant that just makes everything appear to be a lot worse than it actually is. Family can often be a source of pain rather than comfort, in a difficult situation. That in itself can lead to thoughts of just ending it all, to be free of the mental and emotional pain being experienced. As a sufferer of a serious and disabling Neurological illness myself, I can understand the despair of wanting to escape from suffering. But it is not the answer, nor the solution.<br /><br />This story highlights the inadequacies in our NHS "care" system. When someone is in such a state of utter despair, the "care" from the NHS just is not there for people. Staff are detached, distant, clinical, cold and basically useless, except for prescribing drugs and writing reports and comments about the sufferer for their records. Fat load of use that is to the person in distress. When someone is in such a low mood that they feel like ending their life, what they NEED, is a good friend to give them a hug and to talk with them.<br /><br />NHS "care" for people in such a state of distress, doesn't do TLC, hugs, or anything else that would raise the spirits of people in despair. And now the government are contemplating making assisted suicide legal. I can understand how seriously ill people would want to end their lives with dignity when they have suffered enough, BUT I do think that it would be a dangerous move to make assisted suicide legal. That could open the door to all sorts of abuses of power, from relatives after an inheritance, and from the state not wanting the financial burden of very sick people taking years to die.<br /><br />I have always believed that God decides when it is our time to die, and how we will die. Suffering and adversity are character building, intended to push us to seek spiritual comfort. To end our allotted time too soon, without our full life experience, even if that is illness, is a mistake that hinders our own spiritual evolution and progress.<br /><br />With all the scientific research into stem cell treatments, they may well find a cure, or effective treatment soon, for many of these horrific illnesses. Nature often has a cure, in the form of plants with healing properties. Modern medical care appears to have moved away from natural healing and treatments. <br /><br />I hope the young man gets some proper TLC and support.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-39122980407716814332009-08-07T07:35:39.428+01:002009-08-07T07:35:39.428+01:00I believe this is what lawyers and philosophers ca...I believe this is what lawyers and philosophers call a 'hard case.'<br /><br />There is no real way to dispose of it, and given your circumstances, I salute your enginuity.<br /><br />Until the creation of an offence of 'conspiracy to commit self-destruction' or 'intent to do myself in' which was not addressed by the legal draughtsmen of the Suicide Act, your hands were tied. Likewise, the partner agencies could not be contacted to participate in the crisis.<br /><br />Constableconfused. No, but try Constableswitched-on as an alternative.Tom102https://www.blogger.com/profile/13349196217553261791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-17760254371548498002009-08-05T10:13:47.212+01:002009-08-05T10:13:47.212+01:00I would say a BOP was not only your only option an...I would say a BOP was not only your only option and the best one, but also legal. If he wasnt nicked, was there high chance he would commit acts of violence imminently? (IE to himself).<br /><br />As for social - they can be a law onto themselves. <br />Whilst on the 999 calls one friday, at ten to five, i took a call from a social worker requesting we do a 136 on a male in his flat. When i pointed out we legally cant do it, and they should be helping him through their own assessment teams, the reply came back without hint of embarrisment that "it's the weekend". Needless to say, their request was refused. <br /><br />As for attempt suicide, it makes sense. Its to make it easier to look after someone (ie nick them) if they are caught in the act and s136 doesnt apply...taffunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-7070335947966096332009-07-31T23:05:00.661+01:002009-07-31T23:05:00.661+01:00...Unfortunately, this is just one more casualty o......Unfortunately, this is just one more casualty of our so called "care in the community"<br />As an officer dealing with such a situation, all you can do is document it to death!!! In a court situation (should it have all gone belly up) It would be the Crisis team/mental health professionals carrying the proverbial can! Of course that doesn't help the poor sod in the uniform, with a conscience! but well done you!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-18841679592303637022009-07-31T15:32:52.991+01:002009-07-31T15:32:52.991+01:00Its so difficult. The support structure for these ...Its so difficult. The support structure for these people is so wound up in red tape for what we can and can't do that people like this are bound to fall through the cracks eventually and become that call you don't want.<br /><br />Because he is lucid, sober, intelligent and he's reasoning is sound we can't do anything.<br /><br />You did what you could within your powers and duty of care but it doesn't make you feel any better as you know the cycle will more than likely continue.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-65107237688767187102009-07-31T12:51:11.349+01:002009-07-31T12:51:11.349+01:00Sounds like you not only did the best you could un...Sounds like you not only did the best you could under difficult circumstances but that you also managed to offer a form of help to this young man that he'd previously not had. Well done mate!<br />Huntingtons is a terrible disease, a previous neighbour of mine has inherited the condition...she's 40+ and still not symptomatic so there is some hope for your young man at his age. <br />Thanks for caring so much CC<br />Bendy GirlBenefitScroungingScumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08939136229593231935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8929303084525888415.post-19126722567174911852009-07-31T11:54:18.099+01:002009-07-31T11:54:18.099+01:00What I can't believe is how, if he's perio...What I can't believe is how, if he's periodically threatening suicide and then changing his mind, he's not a) a danger to himself and b) in need of psychiatric care. The mental health agencies are the ones that would be in poo if he succeeds.Dandelionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12302932867084357713noreply@blogger.com